tVB 47: 2 BUSINESS START-UP: RELATIONSHIPS

tVB 47: 2

BUSINESS START-UP:

RELATIONSHIPS

 

I like how Wordweb defines ‘Relationships’ - A state of connectedness between people (especially an emotional connection); a state involving mutual dealings between people, parties or countries. To build any vision, whether personal or corporate, you require relationships - and the rights one too. ‘Relationship’ comes from the verb Relate, which means; Make a logical or casual connection; Be relevant to; Be in a relationship with; Interact with and have or form some kind of relationship. Whatever relationship you’re in should be relevant to your life goals. Its impact should be logical in direction with your goals.

We are relational creatures. Folktales and tales by moonlight may tell you great stories about the exploits of wise hermits on distant mountain caves and valleys across lands afar, but wisdom is not obtained apart from human experience. And human experience comes from being with humans. 

PURPOSE OF RELATIONSHIPS

Why do you need relationships in order to fulfill your personal or corporate vision? According to William Henry Drummond, “There are some men and women in whose company we are always at our best. All the best stops in our nature are drawn out, and we find a music in our souls never felt before.” You need relationships to help you be your best. Of course you will know that only the right relationships can help you achieve your best. Secondly, you cannot achieve much alone. A proverb says, “You can’t spell brothers without at the same time spelling others.” Everyone needs someone else, and every organization needs other organizations to be their best in life and industry.

TYPES OF RELATIONSHIPS

Basically there are two types of relationships – good and bad! Good relationships always help you reach your goals. They help you stay focused and aligned. They support you. But bad relationships distract you from your goals. There isn’t really anything sentimental about relationships. They are a matter of success or failure, progress or mediocrity.

If you consider the relationships you’re in right now, you don’t need a Harvard degree to tell you the difference. If all that occurs between you is a load of non-impacting connections, please think again – you might be wasting each other’s time! Good relationships are symbiotic in nature. In simpler terms, you do for me, I do for you. But bad relationships are one-sided or lean-sided at best. You’re the one who has to give up things to keep the other party happy. You’re constantly holding back or pushing back to maintain the relationship. Think again.

‘MUST HAVE’ RELATIONSHIPS

There are certain relationships you just must have.

Mentors  These are people who have experience and wisdom in those areas which you aspire need to do well. They are not necessarily older or richer, but just have more insight. You can meet them in the most unlikely places and ways either in person or through books or other media made available via technology today.

Catalysts  These are men and women who add impetus and speed to the achievement of your goals. They are instrumental in the achievement of your goals. They do not only give advice, they make the link for you. I met one such person a few weeks ago. I needed to push a certain area of business. I had my ideas and had done my research but this person provided vital contacts that just brought all my research findings and ideas together very practically.

Believers  These are people who actually believe in you before seeing your success. They believe in your hope. You will find constant and needed encouragement in the down times from such. You are to be envied if such is your employer, employee or spouse.

Motivators  These are persons whose actions or inactions (yes inactions!) keep you moving forward (even when you think you’re comfortable enough). The interesting about this class of people is that you do not always have to invite them on board and they may not even be aware of their contributions to your goals because most of the time they seem to impact you with pain and discomfort. For example, your landlord, who raises the rent every time you bring home a new car – even when car’s not yours! You get so stressed to the point that you begin making plans to own your own home. You should thank him whenever you finally move house!

MAINTAINING GOOD RELATIONSHIPS

It was Paul Johannes Oskar Tillich who said, “Any deep relationship to another human being requires watchfulness and nourishment; otherwise, it is taken from us. And we cannot recapture it. This is a form of having and not having that is the root of innumerable tragedies.”

You are responsible for keeping good relationships once you’ve identified them. Relationships are like working tools, you must care for them specifically. Relationships are like a good car. They’ll take you to your destination as long as they are in good condition. So service it as at when due.

CARING FOR YOUR GOOD RELATIONSHIPS

Sincere and Open Communication – According to John Powell, “Anyone who builds a relationship on less than openness and honesty is building on sand.” Those on the other side should be able to trust you and back your words without fear of embarrassment or negative fallbacks upon their person or concerns. No one wants to be associated with a liability. Let your word be your bond. Let your actions be above board. Keep yourself in a state in which those you have relationships with will always feel proud to acknowledge that they are connected to you.

Be willing and ready to compromise or sacrifice when necessary – Only you can determine the life-time, quality, strength and impact of your relationships – by what you put into them. Realize that you are not the only deciding factor in keeping the relationship. Charles R. Swindoll said, “You can choose to be a bag of marbles . . . independent, hard, loud, unmarked, and unaffected by others. Or you can be a bag of grapes . . . fragrant, soft, blending, mingling, flowing into one another’s lives. Marbles are made to be counted and kept. Grapes are made to be bruised and used. Marbles scar and clank. Grapes yield and cling.”

A person is defined by their relationships. “Show me your friends”, says the old proverb, “and I’ll show you the kind of person you are.” He that walks with the wise will be wise. Put more meaning and focus into your life by choosing relationships that are relevant to your identified life goals. You have only one Life. Why would you waste it sitting on a bus full of people who are going in a different direction? In the event that you’re having difficulty getting the right people on your bus, why not become the right person for someone else? You will be surprised to find that birds of a feather really flock together. In other words, find the bus going your way and get on it!

 

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